If you've ever been in love with someone unavailable (or a string of someones) - like that guy who works 80 hours a week, that gal who's traveling all the time, that oh-so-mysterious "bad boy" with a drinking problem (oh yeah, and six girlfriends), or someone who's already married, then chances are you've sung the "all the good ones are taken" blues...
But if it's true that, "every relationship you have is a reflection of the relationship you have with yourself" then perhaps it's really you who is the unavailable one. Gulp. Don't believe it? Crazy, you say? Why would you possibly want someone you can't have?
Ponder this...By falling for partners that are just out of reach, you get to have the idea of being in a relationship and some of the benefits, without the potentially painful risks a full relationship requires. If you can't actually make a whole life with them, you can't ever lose that life, either - get it? But by having at least a partial relationship, you get to stave off the loneliness you might otherwise feel from having no relationship at all.
Part timersYet by seeing them sometimes, by getting some of their attention, you get this and many other side benefits - one of the biggest being the "you never know" factor (and sex!). You never know when you'll hear from them, you never know when you'll get to be with them, and you never know when you'll draw their attention next. This is part of what makes it such a thrill and feeling of accomplishment - heck, even victory - when you do. Sadly, this is much more exciting and rewarding to many people than the sweet security of a partner who is always there, always available, and offering their love on a regular, reliable basis.
Just an opinion? Consider this: scientists have found in brain studies that it's more compelling to get something you want some of the time, than it is to get what you want all of the time. This is what's so thrilling and even addictive about gambling for many people - with every hand of cards or roll of the dice, there's a release of chemicals in the brain that creates a rush of excitement. You could win, or you could lose and it's that unpredictable potential of possibilities, again the pull of the "you never know" factor, that keeps gamblers coming back for more.
So perhaps the allure of the "just out of reach" lover is just that - they're out of reach. So, if you're hooked on someone you can't have, ask yourself: If you could have them, would you still want them? Do you really want them, or do you want the feeling of winning that comes with getting them? Because with over six billion people on the planet right now, we promise you, all the good ones are not taken. They just may not interest you. But waking up and admitting this to yourself is the first critical step in healing your real relationship - the one you have with yourself - so that you can move forward toward having the life, and the love life, you truly desire.
When one thinks of psychic phenomena, one name inevitably comes up. Nostradamus - one of history's most famous seers - made hundreds of predictions that not only span the centuries, but (many believe) have consistently come true. But who was the man behind the formidable name and what did he really see?
The Rose Pill Before he began documenting his prophetic visions, Nostradamus was licensed in medicine and treated plague victims with his own unorthodox recipes. He concocted a special potion known as the Rose Pill (the ingredients of which have not survived) and he earned great repute as a healer. However, in the 1530's he suffered a tremendous personal tragedy as his wife and two children died from the plague. His medical practice consequently fell apart and he was scrutinized by the Inquisition concerning his relationship with Julius Cesar Scaliger - a philosopher and astrologer who was believed to have introduced Nostradamus to the art of prophecy.
Divine Presence After the death of his family he traveled around Europe before returning to France and remarrying. It was during this time that he began to record his prophetic visions. It is believed (there was no physical description left behind) that Nostradamus used the technique of scrying by gazing into a bowl of water set in a brass tripod which he believed summoned a Divine Presence in Limbo who would offer him his fragmented visions. He began by writing almanacs which became wildly popular and earned him a great deal of money and a reputation as a gifted seer. He then wrote his most famous work, Les Propheties de M. Michel Nostradamus (commonly known as The Prophecies or Centuries) which is still read to this day. This brought him to the attention of Catherine de Medici who was the Queen Consort to Henri the II of France. Believing in his psychic ability she named him Counselor and Physician in Ordinary to the King. Nostradamus maintained celebrity status until his death in 1566 due to complications of gout and dropsy.
Famous Predictions Some believe that he was able to foretell the Napoleonic wars, American Revolution, the rise and fall of Adolph Hitler, the assassinations of Abraham Lincoln, John F. Kennedy and Robert Kennedy as well as the September 11 terrorist attacks. Many even believe that the third antichrist (if not discovered already) is still at large. Most notably, Nostradamus predicted the world would end in the year 3797. His quatrains are so popular and cryptic that during World War II, they were used by both the Axis and Allied Powers as propaganda tools each highlighting quatrains they felt showed their impending victory. We all know how that one ended.
Nostradamus debunked As with many controversial issues such as these, Nostradamus' prophecies are vague and open to many different interpretations. It is important to remember that not only were his works vague in nature, but he used anagrams, poetry and at least four different languages to disguise their true meaning - that's a whole lot of code to debunk! Furthermore, Nostradamus himself was a terrible astrologer (he required clients to give him their natal charts as he was known for making mistakes such as putting the planets in the wrong sign) and his healing powers have been called into question - why didn't his Rose pill work on his family? A popular urban myth states that during the French Revolution his body was dug up and contained a medallion that had the exact date of his exhumation. Whatever you believe, Nostradamus has had a profound impact on pop culture and history and remains a distinguished member of the psychic hall of fame to this day.
Where oh where art thou, already?
Looking for a partner in this crazy dating world can seem like an endless stream of hopeful coffee dates and disappointment. The thing is, you just don't know how long it will take you to find your soulmate, but you do know that you will find them! So, here are some tips to speed up the process and get to your perfect match quicker. Mix it up If you keep doing what you're doing, you'll keep getting what you've got. One of the challenges of being single for an extended time is that you build a life that keeps you single! You get used to a safe predictable routine. You always go to the gym at the same time. You always walk your dog at the same time. You see the same faces at the grocery store. If you want change, you have to make a change. So, shake it up, completely! Each day for 30 days shake one thing up. Shop at a different store, walk your dog in a new dog park and get a guest membership at a gym across town.
Many have one-week trial memberships, and yes, you may have to sit through a sales pitch, but hey, your soulmate might just be the gym trainer sitting right in front of you. Don't say no If a friend asks you to go to a soccer match and you don't know anything about soccer, go anyway! You may just meet the perfect person to explain the game to you - sitting in the next seat over. Go to parties or gatherings you may not have been open to in the past. Try lectures on things you know nothing about. It's the best way to open up your circle and show you're open to new things. Now that's something that's sexy and will get you noticed. Look up! Yup! It's just that simple. As you are trying out your alternative soulmate search lifestyle, look up and all around you. At this new grocery store that you have never shopped in before, look at the layout. Pick up items and really look at them before you toss them into your basket. People who are engaged in their task look interesting to others. In other words, get present in your space. It's all brand new and so is your outlook. Look up to remind yourself to keep your chin up and to see who else is shopping. If you do catch the eye of someone attractive, don't just shut it away in your mind.
Wander a little closer, and give them a chance. Things may just be looking up. Be intentional Our lives are created through our intentions. We say we want to meet our soulmates, but is that our true intention? The days fill up with tasks and errands, work and obligations that without some deliberate intentions we are reduced to life as a worker bee, only focused on the task, unaware of the entirety of our efforts. So every morning, when you wake up, say this out loud so you can hear your voice and align your energy with your desire, "It is my intention to meet my soulmate within the next 30 days. Bring me to the exact right place at the exact right time and show me clearly who this is. I trust." If meeting your soulmate were an exact science, it wouldn't be the inspirational journey that it is. And your soulmate is out there.
In fact, people fall in love all over the world every day. So, start again, start fresh and let the universe hear your heart's desire. Get specific and see what the next month holds for you! Blessings to All
